Saturday, 26 October 2013


It gives me great pleasure to be independent. Independence means not being dependent on someone to satisfy basic needs. Interdependence is surely a higher virtue, but it often crosses the line and gets into the arena of exploitation. This is a separate subject and is a huge aspect of our normal life.
Moving ahead on the path of independence, a new skill got added recently – milking the cow. I can’t express how liberating the feeling is. We now have a cow and a calf within our house premise and I milk the cow twice a day. Kids now drink fresh, unadulterated, organic milk of a free grazing Indian cow – something experts claim as the best possible. We’re also able to get very small quantities of cream, turn it into butter and then into pure, organic, Indian cow ghee. Just a few spoonsful every 3 days, but unmatched quality! All this independently!
The learning, which got reinforced with this experience, was that the biggest bottleneck in learning something new is inertia. I’d given myself 10 days to be able to milk. And it happened that 2 sessions were sufficient!
Siddharth and Shreya seem to be enjoying themselves – all by themselves. There are times when we feel that they long for company of same aged kids, but most times, they are engrossed in their own games, stories, cow & calf. Siddharth is learning to communicate over e-mail – his own e-mail id. He also writes a blog – couple of sentences each time and sends it to dada and dadi. He’s learning to type. I sometimes wonder if handwriting will be irrelevant in a few years! Shreya is also getting more conversant with a laptop and even the internet. She’s learning to read, but is not a hard-worker at that yet.
Over the last few days, coincidently both Rekha and I have had a realization. The importance of organic food, the harm caused by pesticides, nutrition in food and many more are undoubtedly true, but blown out of proportion. Possibly there is a lobby working against the other side of these phenomena. What is likely to be infinitely more harming than chemically grown food or pesticide infested fruits & vegetables, is, stress. Pursuit of happiness can cause stress, rather, it inevitably does. But happiness does not. Instead of spending a lifetime in pursuit of happiness, it is more important to be happy – today! So, a new principle, new norm: Norms and principles are important. They are the cornerstones of life, but the pursuit of a normal life, which causes stress, defeats the very purpose of a normal life. On the other hand, a life without norms, focusing on happiness alone may also result in stress. Quite a balancing act required!

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for making it open! I missed it for a while! Thought, I almost lost references to Life with norms!