Groups are fun, energising. A group is often more than the sum of all. But there's more than that to truth.
Affluence has gone up. Characteristic of friends and relatives change with raised affluence. The bubbles around them enlarge. Smiles become wider and laughter quiter. Head gets precedence over heart.
A group seeks conformity. I felt unwelcome in groups where I didn't conform. One-on-one, everyone in the group likes me, but when together, I had to resemble them.
In a group, fear multiplies and risks assume larger proportions. When they evaluate my off-beat decisions, they expect me to prove robustness in scenarios, which aren't even probable. When I can't defend, they feel vindicated.
A group abhors one-to-one dialogue. It is treated as contempt of group etiquette. So, it is imperative while discussing in a group, proceed at the pace of the slowest and do not raise the content beyond what the dumbest and the least interested can comprehend or shows interest.
Why then, should I seek a group? Because I seek the strength of unity and the fruits of synergy? Or because I seek relaxation in the long and tiring journey of the soul?
Strength of unity is relevant in adverse times or against an adversary. Synergy cannot be sought in the absence of a shared objective. In times of prosperity, insecurity and fear often dictates group thought and behaviour.
So, let me not look out out for someone to organise a get-together. Instead, let me just go ahead and meet up those I'd like to meet. Let me not seek an approval from a group for what I think or feel. Let me use my wits instead. Let me not seek opinion to check if I really belong to the group. Let me be what I am.
Groups - I must to exit you though I still love each one of you. I accept that for fun and relaxation, there's the magic of a group is not replicable in any other way. But I can't use a group for that alone.